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Ben and Dena
We're getting married in Monterey, CA

Ben & Dena

Saturday
September 12, 2026
Monterey Beach Station
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November 9, 2019 — Present

Our Story

It started with a like on Hinge. Six years later, here we are.

Ch. 1
November 9, 2019

How We Met

First Hinge message

On November 9, 2019, Dena liked Ben's photo on Hinge. He had one question.

"What's your favorite genre of music to watch live?"

They texted nonstop for weeks before finally meeting up: food, boba, and EDM. That's where it all started.

Ch. 2
2019 — 2020

The Early Days

Shows together
Company party

Shows together. Company parties. They kept discovering how much they had in common — the same taste in music, a love of exploring new food, and a connection that ran deeper than any of it.

Then the world shut down, right as things were getting great. So they adapted. Hikes by the new house. Virtual dates. Showing up however they could.

Ch. 3
2021

Finding Our Rhythm

Together 2021
Monterey
Wally
Hawaii

Vegas, Monterey weekends, Fourth of July hikes, Hawaii, Outside Lands, holidays together — every weekend was a reason to be somewhere new.

Then they became pawrents to the sweetest boy. Wally has been glued to their side ever since, and they wouldn't have it any other way.

Ch. 4
2020 — Present

Seasons of Sports

Giants game
49ers game
Stadium selfie
Tailgate

Giants games, 49ers games — if there's a game on, there's a good chance they're watching or they're there, drinks in hand, and fully invested.

Ch. 5
2022 — 2023

Adventures Together

Traveling together
Mexico
Tahoe
Concert

Mexico, Thailand, and then Laos — Ben knew how much it meant for Dena to meet her grandmother and her mother's family, and he made sure they got there.

Tahoe in the snow and the summer. Concerts whenever possible.

Ch. 6
December 2024 · Las Vegas

The Proposal

The proposal
Chandelier Bar
The Sphere
The ring

Every year for the holidays, they head to Las Vegas. Family is there, and it became their tradition. But this December was different, even if Dena didn't know it yet.

Ben booked a room at the Cosmopolitan, Dena's favorite hotel. They started to unpack. Music came on, and Dena noticed immediately.

"This playlist is really good."

What she didn't know was that Ben had made it for her at the very beginning of their relationship, years earlier.

A few minutes later, he got down on one knee. He didn't even get to finish the question.

She said yes. Then the Chandelier Bar for champagne and the Sphere to watch Anyma's opening show — dancing, engaged, and completely over the moon.

Ch. 7
2025 — 2026

On the Way to "I Do"

Engagement photo
Engagement photo

After the yes came everything else — Hong Kong, Koh Phi Phi, Colorado, Tahoe. More baseball. More 49ers. More Outside Lands. Life didn't slow down for an engagement. It just got better.

September 12, 2026. Monterey Beach Station, our people will be around us.

We can't wait.

Ben and Dena
September 12, 2026

The Day

Monterey Beach Station
Date September 12, 2026 Saturday
Venue Monterey Beach Station 285 Figueroa Street
Monterey, CA 93940
Arrival 4:15 pm Ceremony begins at 4:30 pm
Dress Code Cocktail Attire Beach ceremony
Indoor reception
A note on what to wear Cocktail attire. Beach ceremony. Indoor reception.

One small ask — please skip white and green, which are reserved for the bride and groom. Wear whatever makes you feel great. We recommend wedges, block heels, flats, or dress shoes — the ceremony is on the sand with an indoor reception after, but there are activities outside throughout. Be sure to bring a light jacket for the evening.

Schedule
4:15 pm

Arrival

Find your seat, grab a drink, soak it in.

4:30 pm

Ceremony

We'll start promptly. We love you and we mean it — please don't be late.

5:00 pm

Cocktail Hour

Drinks, appetizers, and good company.

6:00 pm

Grand Entrance, First Dance & Dinner

Come celebrate with us at the table.

7:20 pm

Toasts

Grab your drink.

8:00 pm

S'mores on the Beach

Step outside and get cozy by the fire with some sweet treats.

8:45 pm

Bouquet Toss

Good luck out there.

10:00 pm

And That's a Wrap

Thank you for celebrating with us. We love you.

Need to know
Ben and Dena
Our Day-Of Crew

Wedding Party

Parents of the Bride
Lamphay Vongchanh
Lamphay Vongchanh, then

Lamphay Vongchanh

Mother of the Bride

Randy Vongchanh
Randy Vongchanh, then

Randy Vongchanh

Father of the Bride

Parents of the Groom
Stacy Dryer
Stacy Dryer, then

Stacy Dryer

Mother of the Groom

Renee Fadiman
Renee Fadiman, then

Renee Fadiman

Mother of the Groom

Christopher Dryer
Christopher Dryer, then

Christopher Dryer

Father of the Groom & Officiant

Bride's Crew
Ana Griego
Ana Griego, then
Matron of Honor

Dr. Ana Griego

Ana and Dena became friends the way all great friendships start: completely by accident. A mutual friend set off pepper spray in Ana's dorm room freshman year. Nobody was staying in that room. The laughing didn't stop, so they took it to the dining hall, and the dining hall led to everything else: Greek life, spring breaks, becoming roommates. Ana has been there for Dena ever since, no matter what.

Alika Niravong
Alika Niravong, then
Maid of Honor

Alika Niravong

Their parents were friends first, and Alika and Dena came into the world just a month apart — "best friends since birth" is barely an exaggeration. Life pulled them to different states, but distance never changed anything. Now with adult money, they're making childhood dreams come true — Jonas Brothers and Justin Bieber live, every word. Alika has been killing it on the marketing team at Levi's for years — and yes, Dena's jeans game has never been better because of it.

Cindy Koo
Cindy Koo, then
Bridesmaid

Dr. Cindy Koo

Their partners were roommates, which made Cindy and Dena basically roommates too. While the boys played sports, they'd sit together talking about life and taking way too many Snapchat photos. She's an optometrist, pianist, half-marathon runner, and the girl can sing. She also happens to be married to groomsman Brandon.

Kelley Coe
Kelley Coe, then
Bridesmaid

Kelley Coe

They met through nonprofit work. Kelley was a mentor before she was a friend, someone who saw what Dena was capable of because they volunteered and worked side by side constantly. She was AFP president herself, and when she encouraged Dena to follow the same path, it meant everything. Somewhere between all those volunteer hours and after-work hangs, they realized they had way more in common than fundraising: music, festivals, travel. And just like that, a beautiful friendship formed.

Kate Bongxay
Kate Bongxay, then
Bridesmaid

Kate Bongxay

Dena's little sister. There's a big age gap, but they've hit the point where they just get each other. She's a gamer, artist, and crocheter (and has made Dena her most treasured pieces). The type of person who will go to great lengths for the people she loves.

Matthew Vongchanh
Matthew Vongchanh, then
Bride Bro

Matthew Vongchanh

Dena's cousin, raised together by their grandmother, and more like a little brother than anything else. They once spent nearly a month in France for a family wedding, where their auntie picked up fresh bread from the bakery every morning and they stood in front of the Eiffel Tower together. Matthew recently landed a role in IT and is just getting started.

Groom's Crew
Declan Schriever
Declan Schriever, then
Best Man

Declan Schriever

While not biologically related, the brotherhood between Declan and Ben is strong. Declan, a best man, and Ben became friends in a tough 1st grade environment. Since, they've remained incredibly tight, even working at Uber together, and still play Yugioh on a regular basis. Declan can likely win a Super Smash Bros match against any wedding attendee.

Jared Ben-Jamin
Jared Ben-Jamin, then
Best Man

Jared Ben-Jamin

A best man and a best friend - Jared and Ben have been friends since kindergarten and have traveled the planet together venturing to places ranging from Kenya to Costa Rica to Las Vegas. Jared puts his heart into any project he takes on, be it professional or around the house, and is an avid endurance athlete, routinely biking hundreds of miles - his energy is so infectious it somehow got Ben to run a marathon.

Brandon Koo
Brandon Koo, then
Groomsman

Brandon Koo

Brandon, aka BKoo, and Ben go back to elementary, where they became friends while spending afternoons together playing whatever sports or video games they could. Brandon also was a member in a number of Ben's middle school bands, performing a touching rendition of Kanye's Heartless at their graduation. Today, Brandon is a highly regarded Marine and professional who happens to be married to Cindy, a bridesmaid.

Matias Franco
Matias Franco, then
Groomsman

Matias Franco

Matias, also known in the Industry as That Franco, has known Ben for longer than any other groomsmen, becoming friends at just 3 years old. Matias and Ben bonded over years of adventures and joint creative projects - ranging from middle school bands to working together on our HS graduating class' senior film. Matias moonlights as an Apple Engineer, while focusing on his career as a Soulful-house/UKG producer.

Sam Dupas
Sam Dupas, then
Groomsman

Sam Dupas

Sam Dupas, simply known as Dupas, became an instant best friend of Ben's within a few weeks of meeting one another as college freshman. Dupas and Ben trauma bonded over Dr. Felker's chemistry course, and cemented that friendship by forming a rock duo and with their mutual love of race-craft. When not on the sim, Dupas spends his days working for NASA at JPL or attending OSL with Ben and Dena.

Sam Sobell
Sam Sobell, then
Groomsman

Sam Sobell

Sam Sobell, more commonly known as Caveman, is both a childhood friend and a UCLA fraternity brother. As one of the smartest friends Ben has, Caveman and Ben would routinely find themselves building (and setting off) bootleg fireworks as children. Today, Caveman works in AI development, working to assure that when it does take over, it at least does so respectfully.

Ring Bearer
Zale Fadiman
Zale Fadiman, then
Ring Bearer

Zale Fadiman

Zale and Ben met shortly after Zale's birth - in the hospital the very same day in fact! Since they have grown incredibly tight sharing interests ranging from Disney park exploration to card collection to board gaming (not that Ben really stands a chance in regard to the latter). Zale is a recent graduate of the University Puget Sound and a true brother in every sense of the word - he also happens to be the bearer of rings.

Beer Guys
Christopher Vongchanh
Christopher Vongchanh, then
Beer Guy

Christopher Vongchanh

Dena's cousin, but more like a brother. They spent summers swimming in his backyard and traveling with family, including that unforgettable month in France with Matthew and their grandpa. Sweet, caring, and endlessly creative, Christopher recently moved to New York City to follow his dream of becoming a fashion designer.

Tiger Niravong
Tiger Niravong, then
Beer Guy

Tiger Niravong

Alika's (not so little) little brother, which means Tiger and Dena have been in each other's lives since Tiger came into the world. Dena, Alika, and Tiger would spend weekends together playing made-up games and pretending to be members of Codename: Kids Next Door. As an adult, now he's the life of the party. Tiger works as a counselor at a private school, helping students graduate and find their path.

Ben and Dena
Monterey, California

Stay & Explore

Plenty of options close to the venue, from a short walk to a quick drive. And if you're making a weekend of it, Monterey is worth exploring. Here are some of our favorites.

Where to stay
Luxury

Monterey Marriott

Full-service hotel, harbor views, conference center adjacent

~$429/night 8 min walk
Moderate

Casa Munras Garden Hotel

Historic Spanish-style boutique, lush gardens, heated pool

~$227/night 12 min walk

Hotel Pacific

Boutique all-suite hotel, fireplaces, complimentary breakfast

~$363/night 10 min walk

Merritt House

Historic adobe on National Register, rooms with fireplaces

~$369/night 10 min walk

Hotel Abrego

Downtown boutique, outdoor pool, breakfast included

~$393/night 13 min walk
Budget Friendly

Stargazer Inn & Suites

Newly renovated, indoor heated pool, free parking

~$192/night 21 min walk

Monterey Stage Coach Lodge

Clean, affordable rooms near downtown Monterey

~$110/night 21 min walk
Ben and Dena
Registry

Gifts

Your presence is truly the greatest gift. If you'd like to contribute, we've created three funds close to our hearts.

Honeymoon Fund

Help us kick off our next adventure together.

Monterey Fund

The ocean has been part of our story from the beginning. This fund supports the Monterey Bay Aquarium and the work they do to protect the creatures and ecosystems we love.

Donations go directly to the Monterey Bay Aquarium and are tax-deductible.

Home Fund

Help us make our house feel even more like home.

Ben and Dena
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FAQ

A few things guests ask most. If you don't find your answer here, we're always a message away.

We're keeping our celebration intimate, so we're only able to accommodate children who are included on your invitation. If you have a newborn or a special circumstance, please reach out and we'll do our best.
We wish! The venue only allows one dog on the premises — and that spot is taken by Wally, who will be making his grand appearance. Please leave your pups at home for this one.
Due to limited space, we're only able to accommodate the guests named on your invitation. If you have questions, please reach out to us directly.
Yes. The Portola Hotel & Spa is offering 10% off for our guests. You'll find the booking link in the Stay & Explore section.
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Head to the Gifts section of this website. We have three funds you can contribute to directly here.
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Ben and Dena